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  • Lady Purity 0 h 05 min on 7 June 2017 Permalink
    Tags: dating advice, keep your cheating a secret, online dating,   

    Dating Advice for Keeping Your Secret Affair a Secret 

    how to cheatKeep your affair secret

    Having an affair isn’t something a woman typically brags about. In fact, women can be more unforgiving than men of an adulterer and even harsher on themselves when they find themselves compromising their own monogamous values. Whether it turns out to be an anomaly or a prolonged affair you just can’t shake, there are plenty of good reasons why wives and girlfriends would want to keep their infidelity a secret.

    If lying about an affair doesn’t come natural to you, there’s no shame in having an honest nature. Your significant other may not be the love of the life, but maybe he treats you well and hurting him is the last thing you want to do. Relationships of convenience can be particularly vulnerable to betrayal if passion isn’t reciprocal. Your nice guy may be an early finisher but strong on effort. Physical attraction and sexual chemistry can strike us anywhere at any time. If your relationship isn’t providing you with the attention and intimacy you crave naturally, it may just be a matter of time before you’re cruising online dating sites in Cairns for a guy who can help you finally experience an orgasm.

    If you’ve already committed the deed, and you’re prepared to take your secret to the grave, or, if you’re contemplating a fling with someone you have the hots for, you’ve come to the right place for practical advice that will help cover your tracks. Consider these simple tidbits for keeping your affair a secret forever

    Choose a discreet partner.

    Ladies, I can’t stress this point enough. Hastily choosing the wrong partner for your secret affair can have disastrous consequences for your reputation and your relationship. A guy who can’t keep it in his pant can’t be counted on to keep your sex life private. His reputation is built on advertising his sexual exploits and even if he promises to be discreet at first, it may only be a matter of time before he confides in his male friends. If any of his friends are in a committed stable relationship, you can bet his significant other will also hear about it, and the rumor mill will be in full swing for weeks or months before you catch wind of it.

    Use protection.

    A one night stand or a fling is never an excuse to make poor, unhealthy choices when it comes to your body. Some guys will try to pressure you in the heat of the moment to take the risk of having unprotected sex, but do you really want to explain to your husband how you got an STD when you’ve been sleeping in separate beds for the past six months? Could you live with the guilt of knowing you may have passed an STD on to your doting, unsuspecting boyfriend?

    Keep track of your expenses.

    The most common mistake made by husbands who cheat on their wives is leaving a trail of unusual or unfamiliar expenses on his monthly credit card statement. If you share the management of your household finances, you’ll need more planning than typically is required to cover your tracks adequately. Open a separate bank account at a different branch and keep its existence a secret. Don’t stash your debit card or secret prepaid credit card in your wallet where your spouse might come across it. Opt for electronic statements and conduct your transactions online whenever possible to avoid leaving physical receipts accidentally for him to find.

    Designate appropriate boundaries.

    Before you get hot and heavy with your chosen partner in infidelity, work out in the most direct terms appropriate methods, channels, and times for communication between you. Designate when is the best time to exchange texts and set clear boundaries for the frequency of your sexual intimacy. Make it clear what lengths you are prepared to go for the sake of your marriage and what you’re uncomfortable with. Your secret lover may not want to be exclusively involved with you, and you’ll need to address that openly before your emotions get involved more deeply.

    Avoid familiar places together.

    Cell phones with cameras are everywhere. It only takes a second for a neighborhood acquaintance to snap and text a photo of you two being ‘friendly’ at the local book shop to your husband at work. If you want to keep your cheating a secret from your current boyfriend or husband, stay away from public places you both frequent. Even an off-the-cuff remark by a staff member could trigger a sudden barrage of invasive questions from your significant other about your recent whereabouts.

    It can sometimes help to talk to other women whose opinion you trust for their experiences with fidelity. Online dating sites in Cairn are chalk-full of stories by real women, sharing their experiences and advice on infidelity and how they kept it a secret. Just be careful you’re not discussing your plans with the biggest gossip in town.

    Want more tips and online dating advice? Follow the link for the best dating advice in Cairns for more ideas at Cougar Date Link.

  • Lady Purity 16 h 04 min on 30 May 2017 Permalink
    Tags: catch him cheating, is he cheating, marital affairs online,   

    How to Catch a Cheater: 5 Signs He’s Cheating 

    primping for profile pictureSigns he’s cheating

    You’ve been texting him but he doesn’t reply. When you call, you get his voicemail or he tells you he’s busy and keeps the conversation short. When you visit his place, he makes sure you don’t leave anything behind, not even your toothbrush. You’re spending less time together, and he says it’s because of work, but in your gut you know something just doesn’t add up.

    Is your man cheating on you? If he is, how do you catch him?

    The very thought is enough to make your stomach lurch. You push the thought back out as quickly as it enters your mind but it comes back, more intense than ever, a nagging suspicion that all is not well in Camelot. You could ask him directly but, if he’s having an affair and keeping it a secret, what are the chances he’s going to come clean? If you’re wrong, you wind up looking paranoid and insecure, and he might actually start thinking of leaving you. No one wants to be the clingy, needy, paranoid girlfriend or wife.

    Online marital affairs are more common than you realize. If you’ve had this sinking feeling for a while and it’s not going away, you may need to look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself some tough questions. Most women, naturally, want answers. They want to confront the woman who has usurped your throne, and they want to tear the eyeballs out of their man’s sockets. This singular purpose, motivated by a compelling sense of outrage, can lead to some pretty drastic behavior. Before you go bat-crazy on him in public, run through our cheating checklist.

    Cheating Checklist: 5 Signs He’s Seeing Someone else

    1. New Hobbies or Interests. He was never active before, now he’s in the gym three times a week. None of his male friends seem to share his new passion and he NEVER invites you to join him. Whether it’s a sport or other recreational activity, if he’s not involving you it’s probably because he doesn’t want you to be involved.
    2. He texts a lot more than usual. This is a difficult one to gauge but if you notice an increased amount of texting, and he’s very guarded about his phone, there may be more going on than ‘work’. When two people trust each other, they have no problem being open about their activities.
    3. He hasn’t updated his status online. This is a big one for the girls who are dating. When a guy is really into a girl, he can’t help but tell everyone. He brags, takes photos and shares them with his buddies to show them how hot he thinks you are. So why are there no photos of you on his Facebook page? Why is his status online still ‘single’ while yours says “In a relationship”? He may argue that he just hasn’t had time, but if he’s constantly texting and has plenty of regular communications with friends on social media, something is wrong.
    4. He rarely initiates contact. Holding hands, kissing, sitting close together, eye contact, are all physical signs that a man is into you and enjoys being close to you. If you notice he’s becoming less affectionate, smiles at you less, and seems distracted in your presence, these are signs of someone who is emotionally withdrawn. There’s a good chance he’s thinking about greener pastures already.
    5. He keeps hygienic supplies at hand. This only applies if it’s something he doesn’t usually do. If he comes back from an outing with the guys smelling minty fresh and dabbed in cologne, that’s weird. He couldn’t possibly be trying to impress his buddies with his hygiene, so what gives? If he keeps mints, sanitizer, and gum on hand, and he’s not a runway model, something is up.

    If your man is cheating on you, what will you gain by confronting him or the woman? Is it revenge, justice, peace of mind that you hope to achieve? Do you want him to come crawling back to you on his hands and knees, begging for forgiveness? Are you capable of forgiving his betrayal?

    Catching him in the act sounds like a great idea, but it’s not likely to happen unless you’re a full-time detective and you plan on following him around all day with binoculars. Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship. Even people who are cheating together need trust between them to carry out their deception successfully. If your boyfriend or husband is behaving in a way that no longer inspires trust, you don’t really have a relationship. Some people think a relationship ends when two people stop having sex and communicating. Your relationship is over the moment you stop having faith in your partner. If you’re at the point where you find it difficult or downright impossible to believe anything that comes out of your partner’s mouth, your relationship may have already ended. It’s time to take the next step towards your own personal happiness. Reach out to friends and family for support, take time to heal, and be good to yourself!

  • Lady Purity 18 h 32 min on 15 January 2017 Permalink
    Tags: bad guys are sexy, casual sex, dating profile pictures, , single ladies   

    How To Make Your Profile More Bad-Ass 

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    If there was no online dating then we would not be able to test the theory that bad guys are sexy, and get the most single ladies. But we are lucky enough to have tons of online dating sites that help bring men and women together for casual sex. The one theme that I have noticed over the years is that bad guys always get the girls online – they are always the ones enjoying casual sex here and there. Bad guys can mean a lot of things. It’s a visual factor having to do with dating profile pictures, as well as a descriptive factor. No doubt there is some fabrication going on here, which is what I want to focus on. How can you make a profile that screams bad-ass even if you are actually just a regular guy? What are the key things that every male profile needs to seem bad-ass, and therefore, more alluring to women? Is it okay to lie on your profile just to get laid? Well it sure is in my books, and it sure should be in your books too.

    Think about any resume you have ever written of yourself. Was it all completely factual? Probably not. Did it show off sides of yourself that were more bad-ass than they actually are? Definitely. So take inspiration from that and re-do your online profile to market yourself for more appealing for casual sex, because that’s what online dating is all about.

    Bad Guys Are Sexy

    The image of the 1950’s bad guy is a good place to start. You’ve seen photos of James Dean right? That’s the kind of thing to start thinking about, with you as James Dean. Picture you as a guy in boots, jeans, a leather jacket, greased back hair, a cigarette dangling in his mouth, and a pouty smile on his face. Is that possible? Let me tell you that had better be, because that’s how to get laid these days.

    Bad guys always have cars or motorcycles, and they don’t have very many interests outside of having fun and playing pool. That is if you live on the east coast. If you live on the west coast, mention something about surfing. If you live in the prairies, then it’s all about the cowboy stereotypes. These are broad outline themes for you to use as a guide when you create a profile on a dating site.

    The bad guy also says very little about himself, but would have many photos. Let the impressive image of yourself do most of the convincing. We are an exceptionally visual culture anyways, so why try and convince using words when your looks are the major thing that matters? I recommend getting a friend with a good camera to take some excellent photos of you. Bad-ass guys care about their looks. They are not jocks or computer tech guys – they are fancy men who like to live life in the fast-lane. So even if you don’t feel connected to these themes, it will help your dating profile to pretend that you are.

    Single Ladies

    What do you think single ladies want to see in a sexual partner? Brutal honesty and realism? Heck no. They want some fiction, some exciting lofty-ness that excites them out of the boring day to day. That’s the kind of impression you want to give each person that views your profile, because realistically you will only sleep with them once or twice anyways, so why worry about making an honest profile of yourself?

    Single ladies are in the the dating game because they like these challenges. Even though there are some ladies who are using the internet to have online affairs, the majority of ladies are single and looking for some action. So why not play yourself up and get them to come over one night?

    Dating Profile Pictures

    Aside from making up some bad-ass hobbies like motorcycling or snowboarding, I suggest putting up your height by a couple inches. No ladies I know like short men, so give yourself a little boost. It’s all the the best dating profile picture you can imagine, so make it happen no matter what. It will make all the difference in your pursuit for casual sex.

    I also recommend answering the personality questionnaire in a way that sounds more like James Bond than you. It’s going to mean that some of the most beautiful women who would never look at you in the street will be messaging you to meet up. That’s the magic of the bad-ass profile method – it get’s the most amazing results. Besides, I find that when I make up a little lie about myself it actually gives me a little boost of confidence to think I could be that. It’s a funny psychological trick that might work for you too. Who knows if you don’t try!

  • Lady Purity 4 h 48 min on 8 January 2017 Permalink
    Tags: casual hook ups, get laid in Tulsa, how to be a confident man, , online hookup sites, singles in my area, young men seeking for mature women   

    How To Get Laid In Tulsa 

    If you want to get laid in Tulsa then you better get online to the hookup sites and start getting laid. Lot’s of the great state of Oklahoma is rural farmland, which means it’s hard to get out there and meet all the lovely ladies who happen to live in this fine state. What’s my solution? Online dating sites that are just jam packed with single ladies and men of all ages who like confident men, are ready to flirt, and are curious to start hooking up with you. That’s the easiest way to go, but once you are on there, you wanna start figuring out how to go about meeting the right kind of ladies that suit your personality. It’s definitely true that some of the younger ladies are looking for Mr. Right. These are the ladies to avoid. They are conservative types with loads of baggage that will just tie you down in the long run.

    In my experience, as a 52 year old lady who has been through two marriages, there are a number of great ways to get laid in Tulsa without having to worry about relationship hangups. Here’s how I recommend going about doing it, whether you are a 19 year old man or 79 year old lady. There are so many online cougar dating sites out there if you just opened your eyes and looked for some casual hook ups.

    sex in tulsaGetting Laid In Tulsa

    How To Be A Confident Young Man

    Us ladies love young men who are confident and strong. Especially those guys who are silent and strong, who know when to lay low and let other’s do the entertaining. Definitely in Oklahoma you are going to want to stress that in your description. My best friend’s husband is a strong silent cowboy, and both my sisters are married to strong silent types. If you don’t know how to be a confident man, then you can at least pretend to be online.

    Ladies also love men you are confident in how they approach communication online. So men: if you want casual hook ups, then just go out and say it before anything else. Being confident in what you want makes it easier for ladies to know how to read you. If you don’t have the time for relationship talk, then I suggest looking into some of the sites geared towards online hookups for sex The same goes for ladies: if you want a relationship oriented dating site, then make sure you do the research. It will lead to faster rates of success for you anyways, so just take the plunge and sort out your relationship status before it’s too late.

    How To Get More Casual Hookups

    This goes for both men and women, but mostly women: when you are chatting away with someone, don’t go into a bunch of details about past relationships and how tough it has been. No one on the internet wants to know about it, and no one else is sharing that kind of stuff for the simple reason that it get’s in the way. We are all trying to create something exciting and new to forget about our past experiences, so join the club and start looking forward rather than backwards.

    Another tip is for men: I suggest offering to pick ladies up from their home, and dropping them off after the date. Not only is it gentlemanly and nice, but it makes sex a lot more likely. Almost all the men that offer that too me have gotten luck – so that’s a pretty good sign for all you men out there. I know from my research that there are a lot of singles in my area, and I bet there are a lot in your area too.

    My third dating tip is for both genders: be flirty, and don’t say no to joining a live cam dating site. Being flirty is just the best way to break the ice. If you are stuck for a conversation topic, ask about their pets. He or she is bound to have a dog, or maybe even some cute farm animals, so it’s a pretty safe bet you’ll get a positive reaction.

    Being flirty also means insinuating that you want to see more, that you want more out of the other person. It’s very sexy to be flirted with, and always escalates the conversation towards sex – which is what we all want, right?

    When it comes to web cams I just can’t say enough about how great they are. Especially in Tulsa where a lot people live outside the city, it’s so fun to be able to plug into their life without having to spend a whole afternoon on it.

    Singles In My Area

    What do I say to some of the singles in my area? Well, first thing’s be curious. If you are a confident man it can be hard to show curiosity – but I guarantee it’s one of the secret tips that all us women just love to see. We don’t want to be the one’s going into all the questioning. It’s really nice to have someone ask a bunch of personal questions about yourself right? Well, try it on the next match you get and see what happens. If they shy away from you then it’s time to move on. But most likely they will take warmly too it, and invite you in for more. It’s a sign of maturity and confidence to be able to stop talking about yourself and listen to someone else. It will make hooking up that much easier, that’s a given.

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