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  • Lady Purity 0 h 05 min on 7 June 2017 Permalink
    Tags: dating advice, keep your cheating a secret, online dating, secret affair   

    Dating Advice for Keeping Your Secret Affair a Secret 

    how to cheatKeep your affair secret

    Having an affair isn’t something a woman typically brags about. In fact, women can be more unforgiving than men of an adulterer and even harsher on themselves when they find themselves compromising their own monogamous values. Whether it turns out to be an anomaly or a prolonged affair you just can’t shake, there are plenty of good reasons why wives and girlfriends would want to keep their infidelity a secret.

    If lying about an affair doesn’t come natural to you, there’s no shame in having an honest nature. Your significant other may not be the love of the life, but maybe he treats you well and hurting him is the last thing you want to do. Relationships of convenience can be particularly vulnerable to betrayal if passion isn’t reciprocal. Your nice guy may be an early finisher but strong on effort. Physical attraction and sexual chemistry can strike us anywhere at any time. If your relationship isn’t providing you with the attention and intimacy you crave naturally, it may just be a matter of time before you’re cruising online dating sites in Cairns for a guy who can help you finally experience an orgasm.

    If you’ve already committed the deed, and you’re prepared to take your secret to the grave, or, if you’re contemplating a fling with someone you have the hots for, you’ve come to the right place for practical advice that will help cover your tracks. Consider these simple tidbits for keeping your affair a secret forever

    Choose a discreet partner.

    Ladies, I can’t stress this point enough. Hastily choosing the wrong partner for your secret affair can have disastrous consequences for your reputation and your relationship. A guy who can’t keep it in his pant can’t be counted on to keep your sex life private. His reputation is built on advertising his sexual exploits and even if he promises to be discreet at first, it may only be a matter of time before he confides in his male friends. If any of his friends are in a committed stable relationship, you can bet his significant other will also hear about it, and the rumor mill will be in full swing for weeks or months before you catch wind of it.

    Use protection.

    A one night stand or a fling is never an excuse to make poor, unhealthy choices when it comes to your body. Some guys will try to pressure you in the heat of the moment to take the risk of having unprotected sex, but do you really want to explain to your husband how you got an STD when you’ve been sleeping in separate beds for the past six months? Could you live with the guilt of knowing you may have passed an STD on to your doting, unsuspecting boyfriend?

    Keep track of your expenses.

    The most common mistake made by husbands who cheat on their wives is leaving a trail of unusual or unfamiliar expenses on his monthly credit card statement. If you share the management of your household finances, you’ll need more planning than typically is required to cover your tracks adequately. Open a separate bank account at a different branch and keep its existence a secret. Don’t stash your debit card or secret prepaid credit card in your wallet where your spouse might come across it. Opt for electronic statements and conduct your transactions online whenever possible to avoid leaving physical receipts accidentally for him to find.

    Designate appropriate boundaries.

    Before you get hot and heavy with your chosen partner in infidelity, work out in the most direct terms appropriate methods, channels, and times for communication between you. Designate when is the best time to exchange texts and set clear boundaries for the frequency of your sexual intimacy. Make it clear what lengths you are prepared to go for the sake of your marriage and what you’re uncomfortable with. Your secret lover may not want to be exclusively involved with you, and you’ll need to address that openly before your emotions get involved more deeply.

    Avoid familiar places together.

    Cell phones with cameras are everywhere. It only takes a second for a neighborhood acquaintance to snap and text a photo of you two being ‘friendly’ at the local book shop to your husband at work. If you want to keep your cheating a secret from your current boyfriend or husband, stay away from public places you both frequent. Even an off-the-cuff remark by a staff member could trigger a sudden barrage of invasive questions from your significant other about your recent whereabouts.

    It can sometimes help to talk to other women whose opinion you trust for their experiences with fidelity. Online dating sites in Cairn are chalk-full of stories by real women, sharing their experiences and advice on infidelity and how they kept it a secret. Just be careful you’re not discussing your plans with the biggest gossip in town.

    Want more tips and online dating advice? Follow the link for the best dating advice in Cairns for more ideas at Cougar Date Link.

  • Lady Purity 16 h 04 min on 30 May 2017 Permalink
    Tags: catch him cheating, is he cheating, marital affairs online, secret affair   

    How to Catch a Cheater: 5 Signs He’s Cheating 

    primping for profile pictureSigns he’s cheating

    You’ve been texting him but he doesn’t reply. When you call, you get his voicemail or he tells you he’s busy and keeps the conversation short. When you visit his place, he makes sure you don’t leave anything behind, not even your toothbrush. You’re spending less time together, and he says it’s because of work, but in your gut you know something just doesn’t add up.

    Is your man cheating on you? If he is, how do you catch him?

    The very thought is enough to make your stomach lurch. You push the thought back out as quickly as it enters your mind but it comes back, more intense than ever, a nagging suspicion that all is not well in Camelot. You could ask him directly but, if he’s having an affair and keeping it a secret, what are the chances he’s going to come clean? If you’re wrong, you wind up looking paranoid and insecure, and he might actually start thinking of leaving you. No one wants to be the clingy, needy, paranoid girlfriend or wife.

    Online marital affairs are more common than you realize. If you’ve had this sinking feeling for a while and it’s not going away, you may need to look yourself in the mirror and ask yourself some tough questions. Most women, naturally, want answers. They want to confront the woman who has usurped your throne, and they want to tear the eyeballs out of their man’s sockets. This singular purpose, motivated by a compelling sense of outrage, can lead to some pretty drastic behavior. Before you go bat-crazy on him in public, run through our cheating checklist.

    Cheating Checklist: 5 Signs He’s Seeing Someone else

    1. New Hobbies or Interests. He was never active before, now he’s in the gym three times a week. None of his male friends seem to share his new passion and he NEVER invites you to join him. Whether it’s a sport or other recreational activity, if he’s not involving you it’s probably because he doesn’t want you to be involved.
    2. He texts a lot more than usual. This is a difficult one to gauge but if you notice an increased amount of texting, and he’s very guarded about his phone, there may be more going on than ‘work’. When two people trust each other, they have no problem being open about their activities.
    3. He hasn’t updated his status online. This is a big one for the girls who are dating. When a guy is really into a girl, he can’t help but tell everyone. He brags, takes photos and shares them with his buddies to show them how hot he thinks you are. So why are there no photos of you on his Facebook page? Why is his status online still ‘single’ while yours says “In a relationship”? He may argue that he just hasn’t had time, but if he’s constantly texting and has plenty of regular communications with friends on social media, something is wrong.
    4. He rarely initiates contact. Holding hands, kissing, sitting close together, eye contact, are all physical signs that a man is into you and enjoys being close to you. If you notice he’s becoming less affectionate, smiles at you less, and seems distracted in your presence, these are signs of someone who is emotionally withdrawn. There’s a good chance he’s thinking about greener pastures already.
    5. He keeps hygienic supplies at hand. This only applies if it’s something he doesn’t usually do. If he comes back from an outing with the guys smelling minty fresh and dabbed in cologne, that’s weird. He couldn’t possibly be trying to impress his buddies with his hygiene, so what gives? If he keeps mints, sanitizer, and gum on hand, and he’s not a runway model, something is up.

    If your man is cheating on you, what will you gain by confronting him or the woman? Is it revenge, justice, peace of mind that you hope to achieve? Do you want him to come crawling back to you on his hands and knees, begging for forgiveness? Are you capable of forgiving his betrayal?

    Catching him in the act sounds like a great idea, but it’s not likely to happen unless you’re a full-time detective and you plan on following him around all day with binoculars. Trust is the cornerstone of any relationship. Even people who are cheating together need trust between them to carry out their deception successfully. If your boyfriend or husband is behaving in a way that no longer inspires trust, you don’t really have a relationship. Some people think a relationship ends when two people stop having sex and communicating. Your relationship is over the moment you stop having faith in your partner. If you’re at the point where you find it difficult or downright impossible to believe anything that comes out of your partner’s mouth, your relationship may have already ended. It’s time to take the next step towards your own personal happiness. Reach out to friends and family for support, take time to heal, and be good to yourself!

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